Friday, June 08, 2007
Thursday, June 07, 2007
I know, I’m not posting a lot this week, but hey, I’m way busy, getting back in the groove after being out of town. Plus, I have some additional writing to do right now, so ya’ll are getting shortchanged a bit.
So, some mundane and non-sexy stuff.
I admit right here that part of what I need done involves blackberry bushes. Yes. The dreaded blackberries. And just to make it even more fun, my house sits on a slope.
Before you start posting comments, be aware that no matter what you say, this will not be something I’ll be dealing with myself. These lily-white hands? No way. I will be paying someone to deal with this – that’s what I’m looking for. So, names and contact info, not strategies. Unless I can hook up a defibrillator up to the blackberries and kill them that way.
The other thing I need is a glass-repair person. And I have a resource for that, but if you're a kink-friendly professional glazier, talk to me, I have a job for you.
But what is very sad is that the gold and black Wolford dress seems not to exist. None of the stores have it, in the
And I like everything about this dress except the buckled straps. (Although: why is the model posed as if she has a stitch in her side?) My experience is that metal details on shoulder straps make them fall down. Now, of course I sometimes let straps slip off my shoulder just to be flirty and provocative. But only when I want them to.
Note to my boys: I’m probably going out of town from around July 10th to around July 18th.
I think that’s about I have to say. Now I must go back to work on other things…
Tuesday, June 05, 2007
Monday, June 04, 2007
From The Mailbag
Where do you go for outdoor sex in
Sincerely, Blue Balls
Well, BB, I myself don’t go anywhere for outdoor sex, because I don’t have sex outdoors. One of the pleasures of adulthood is having private space, so I don’t need to, and I’m not the outdoorsy type anyway. But I’m posting your query here, and perhaps one my fine readers will have a suggestion for you.
Where does one learn the art of domination? I have no experience and do not know anyone in the lifestyle. I have been on alt.com and read some books and blogs but have never found out exactly how one gets started. Do I need a mentor? Where would I find one? Any information would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
What a nice polite letter.
The best way to learn BDSM is from other players, it’s true. And if one can find an experienced dominant who wants to show one some skills, that’s grand. The best place to do that is to network at BDSM social events. (How do you find BDSM social events? Voila!)
But often people overlook the obvious: find an experienced bottom and let them teach you. I have a feeling this writer is female, which means that there are literally hundreds of men in any metro area who would love to teach her about their particular kinks, provide her with the necessary tools, and let her practice her skills on them. You’re a hot commodity, my dear, you can write your own ticket.
Female submissives are slightly harder to come by, but especially for a woman, it’s totally do-able.
Be honest about your lack of experience, but stress your strong interest and quick learning skills. Variety is your friend here, don’t just play with one person, play with lots of different people. You’re not going to be able to pull off a Mistress Uber-Dominant persona first crack out of the box, and you will make mistakes, we all do. But hunger and attitude coupled with a determination to continuously improve your technique will get you far, fast.